Let's just eliminate all the bullshit, shall we?

Friday, March 25, 2011

Best 'Belated' B-day Blessing EVAH!


A fill-in job with kids, and a call-back for another day!

All the kids were awesome, and it was the shot in the
arm I have desperately needed!

Purpose, passion, and a paycheck. What a concept.

Keep that hope alive....

If I hadn't maintained faith and perseverance--even though
nothing seemed to be panning out over the course of long,
hard, draining months of efforts --it would not have come to

Hang in there.....


Thursday, March 24, 2011

Happy Birthday to ME!

Harry Houdini, master escape artist, was also born on a March 24th!

I have shared my birth day with some amazing people personally;
Twylah, Amy, Lynn, Daniel.....

William Morris, English designer and socialist, was also born on this
day. Rufus King, a framer of the U.S. Constitution, also shares the day.

It's also shared by Clyde Barrow, bank robber (Bonnie & Clyde,)
beefy Barry Horowitz (the wrestler,) diva nightmare Star Jones,
combative actor/sex symbol Steve McQueen, and outrageous
designer Bob Mackie.

My ape shit crazy older brother was born 2 days prior. Yeah. We
share that energy, folks. It's like the full moon; it ain't on the 'day of'
that crazy takes over.

Well, regardless of how many scary and inspirational people I
share the day and our wondrous primal creative energy with,
it is MY DAY! I am fabulous and celebrating my 25th year....
for the 17th time. (That's '42' for the slow ones.)

I'm like TIMEX, honey...I can take a licking and keep ON ticking.

You shoulda bet on BLACK, bitches!
ASTROLOGY (from "How Stuff Works")
March 24 Birthdays

Creative and sympathetic, the Aries born on March 24 sees their life as an expression of their deep inner creativity. Their good nature extends to everyone around them. They possess a credible simplicity that attracts enthusiastic admirers.

You should embrace: Hard choices, spiritual harmony, patience

You should avoid: Losing momentum, codependency, negative thoughts
Friends and Lovers
The gentle nature of March 24 people encourages relationships with those who are emotionally stronger. They often establish friendships with people who may serve as mentors or advisers. Love may be complicated because they need to learn from each romantic encounter, hence the tendency to lose interest in a partner once the "lesson" has been learned.
Children and Family
Because of their kind and docile personality, March 24 individuals are likely to be the one to whom other siblings come to share a confidence. They are tender, indulgent parents. Because they have difficulty enforcing rules and discipline, they may not be particularly successful in this role. What they do best is set an exemplary pattern of behavior for their youngsters.
Natural enthusiasm helps keep March 24 natives feeling emotionally energized. They are not especially active individuals and prefer to get their exercise from normal daily activity rather than a workout regimen. They should drink plenty of water and stay away from caffeine.
Career and Finances
Any creative outlet makes a worthwhile career for those born on this date. They have a natural flair for color and make excellent decorators, designers, or artists. Handling money is not their forte, but they can benefit from professional attention.
Dreams and Goals
For most March 24 natives, the concept of personal and professional goals may be an abstraction. They have a general idea of what they want to happen in their lives, but it is likely to be tempered by their wonder and enjoyment at watching events unfold.

ARIES: Temperamental, courageous, independent, leader, moody, generous,
enthusiastic, impulsive, impatient, self-indulgent, devoted, activist! (Whoops!)

Friday, March 18, 2011

What does a predator look like?

Most predators assault between 75 and 100
victims in their lifetime. Keep in mind that that is
an average number of people hurt by someone
that get tracked down. That get reported. That
get discovered.

Most abuse goes unannounced. Most goes
untreated. Most goes unstopped. Most goes

Our society is so afraid of having horrible acts
be real that they choose to overlook them and
ignore the signs. Pretending it isn't happening is
the same as it not really happening. (Only nothing
could be further from the truth.)

A society of denial and quiet creates a place
where abusive behavior thrives. People are afraid
to speak up, afraid to question and be wrong,
reluctant to believe kids when they reveal what's
happening, and so on. And predators depend on this
very thing to prosper.

No one looks into why that guy is so friendly
with the young boys who have no father.

No one questions why that woman is so aggressive
and domineering with those children.

No one wants to go up against the 'pillar of the
community' despite everyone knowing he's up to no

Predators get a free pass, unless they look like
someone who's crazy or homeless; then we get all
fired up because it's some easy-target outsider. But
like all other arenas, the juggernauts do what they will.
Some even dare you to do something about their
exploits. They get a kick out of operating 'in plain sight.'

Whether abuse is emotional, physical, sexual,
mental, or spiritual, the pain of being tortured and
terrorized carries with most people for a lifetime.

The scars show up in every relationship. Most
addicts have suffered at the hands of an abusive
personality (or a string of them.) Most abusers come
from a background of victimization.

If you have survived abuse, the future doesn't have
to be bleak. But at some point, dealing with the
reality of what happened is crucial. The trauma--and
how we responded to it--is typically behind every
major life issue we face as an adult.

There's a group specific to the needs of men dealing
with sexual abuse. It is:

The Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network works
with both men and women. They are:

Many of us with a history of abuse tend to draw
abusive people to us. For overcoming a domineering
and abusive person in adulthood, this is a good source:

We're not kids anymore.
We aren't powerless.
We don't have to live as victims.
We don't have to live anyone's life except our own.

Speak up, stand up, but don't give up.

Find a reliable source of hope and help
in your journey to becoming whole.

As always, if you need more information or help,
contact me directly at robertsayre2@hotmail.com
or post a request anonymously to the blog.

A whole life is possible.


Monday, March 14, 2011

Never Obvious

There are not a lot of landmarks or warning signs
when it comes to what reality has in store for us.
Whether it's a cheating husband or a natural
disaster, it's hard to pinpoint when your world will
be rocked by circumstances beyond your control.
(I know some cheating husbands who sort of are
natural disasters, but I digress.)

This world of ours is fueled and run by pretense,
falsehoods, fraud, and duplicity....it's the nature
of the beast. You can either learn to get your
mobster on or you can dig that ditch til you die.
Choices...lots of choices.

Americans cling to their pretenses like favorite
dolls; the illusion, after all, is everything. We
promote the idea of goodness and morality, but
in fact it's the maintaining of the illusion rather
than the actuality of moral behavior that revs us up.

We love our manipulations, even when we're
only lying to ourselves.

Think about all the Ted Haggards in our world;
busily tauting the 'right' way for others to live
while engaging in deceptiveness and dark actions
of their own. Double standards rock the Casbah.

Only when caught do these folks get honest. Nah,
just kidding! That's when they start justifying and
rationalizing and blaming others and telling you that
what you think you saw isn't what you actually saw.

We are a nation of parents that want children to
"Do as I say, not as I do," ignoring fully all the
evidence of reality which states that children are
always paying attention and far more likely to "Do
what you do, not what you say."

I know someone who talks endlessly about how
'immoral' every harlot and whore in town is, but
she houses her criminal son while financing and
covering up for his criminal activities. Hmmm.

Unlike most self-professed 'good' people (whatever
that means--everyone basically considers themselves
a 'good person' at the end of the day,) I don't believe
that there is a deity waiting to set the scales right at
the end of time. I wish I could believe in such fluff;
I'm sure it would be quite calming to at least think
that people will, eventually, 'get theirs,' even if I am
not there to see it happen.

But alas, I constantly see people prospering from illegal
and immoral activities. I see people who get off
on hurting others find favor and accord, while
those who are genuine are devalued and discredited.

I see a perpetual imbalance between the good folk
suffering and the bad folk advancing. And it is, of course,

Thursday, March 10, 2011

What's your H.I.V. I.Q.?

We forget that there are things going
on in the universe that we can't detect...
far more than what the naked eye picks up on.

This is what HIV looks like under
the microscope. Fighting t-cells in an
average body.

Talking about HIV and AIDS
won't infect or kill you.

Not talking about it just might.

Education is power.
The virus hasn't gone away, even
though the dialogue about it has.

It might be uncomfortable to discuss
what causes the spread of the virus with
a child or partner, but having to watch
someone suffer from illness or die
is infinitely more uncomfortable.

If we can't even discuss the intricacies
and intimacies of sexual conduct,
what business do we have engaging in it?

Get the facts....
get the courage to break the silence.

For more help, e-mail me at robertsayre2@hotmail.com